Alpha Fantasy, Beta Reality

I just read a post by Romancemama at and she had MY man on it. Tsk, tsk, Romancemama. Gerard is mine, all mine!

Ahem. She did bring up an interesting question though. What I read isn’t necessarily what I want in real life. This is the point where I explain that the females in my family are dominant. It’s a fact of life. With the exception of two or three, the women rule.

So here I am, a single, stubborn, Southern lady with Alpha tendencies. Does this mean I read stories where the heroine is a dominatrix? Nah. I’m not into that. I actually prefer a good, solid Alpha male hero. I’m sure if I came across such a man in real life, I’d probably want to lay him out. A little Alpha is fine, but when I’m reading…

I want him to take the choices away, corner our intrepid heroine, and make mad, passionate love to her. Rip her clothes off, tell her how much he wants her, and love her and only her. That’s the catch. He does this, not because he does this to all women, but because the heroine has him so stirred up, he can’t help himself. This is what I read ‘bodice rippers’ for. It’s the idea that this strong, independent, naughty male can’t live without her. Does she have to save him from his demons? Nah, not necessarily. Demons are what make the hero dark and passionate, the perfect foil for her lightness.

This is what I love about romance. If I read a book where the hero is wishy-washy, or not aggressive enough, that book goes in my ‘get rid of’ pile. This doesn’t mean I want the hero to rape the heroine. I want him to coax her, seduce her, make her just as wild for him as he is for her. That’s a good romance. Throw in some humor (dark, light, goofy, doesn’t matter), a villain, and I’m so going to read that book.

How about you? Do you prefer your heroes and heroines to reflect real life, or do you step outside reality? I’m not talking science fiction, or paranormal, but the Alpha male versus the nice guy you date/marry. What’s your preference? Do you have an alpha male?

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