Grin and Bear It

This seems to be the week of rejections. I’m not going to go on about the latest such letter I received this morning. No, today I’m going to talk about perseverance.

I’m a very stubborn person. At least I call it stubbornness. Others call it oppositional defiance. I don’t like being told what to do, or that I can’t do something. Ask my mother. πŸ™‚ I think this is part of the reason why I’m not as beat up about the rejections as I suppose I should be. Though no one has said anything negative about my queries, they’re still saying ‘no, it doesn’t interest us’ which just gets me fired up even more.

Perseverance is that quality we see in the underdog that makes us root for them. It’s what made me sit there and cry my eyes out for 300. I cry every single time I see all of those delicious men in their loincloths being beat down by the Persians. I cry and cry when King Leonidas is skewered by those arrows with the bodies of his loyal 300 Spartans littering the ground around him. They knew they weren’t going to win, but it didn’t matter. They gave Greece time to regroup, giving up their lives for the greater good.

So I think authors have to have more than a little of this same quality. We trudge on no matter the obstacles in our paths, no matter how many times we hear ‘you have a strong writing voice, but it just doesn’t suit me’ or ‘I just wasn’t sufficiently interested in this enough to request more’. We wrap ourselves in the cloak of our words, arm ourselves with our pens, and straggle down the road to publication anyway. How does that phrase go? ‘Return with your novel, or upon it.’

Do you have a special attribute you believe has helped you in your writing career? What’s your recipe for rejection?

4 Comments

Filed under Uncategorized

4 responses to “Grin and Bear It

  1. romancemama

    Well, watching G Butler in 300 always helps.

    Seriously, I don’t know. I mean, I just get all pissed off and say I will stop writing. Like that is an option. But I say it and sometimes I get really angry and erase all my emails from RWA, my chapters and other writing sources, delete my research bookmarks and delete my wp files. I throw out old RT Book Reviews, RWRs, etc. I put all my office supplies back in the desk in the den. That is a major hissy fit. When I have one, I swear writing and I are done. Like Ben and Jennifer. Not going there again.

    Then I calm down, and the people in my head start saying, come on, just one scene. You can handle it. And with that one scene I am totally back into my addiction, I re-upload everything I pretended to destroy from the backup discs where it was safe, and I am back in business.

    • I haven’t gotten to the point where I throw everything out. My very first rejection was several years ago for a book I hadn’t even finished (and I’ll admit, it was downright crappy). I didn’t know anything about the industry or the procedures to follow. After that one rejection, I didn’t write for two years. Then I couldn’t keep the voices (read characters) in my head from bothering me at all hours. I think that first rejection actually helped me get through these. I’m disappointed, but not depressed. It’s a good place to be.

      300 always makes me feel better. When I saw it at the theater, I was so pumped up with adrenaline I wanted to out and conquer the world. I still feel the same watching it, except now I direct all that adrenaline to writing. And I don’t watch it for those six-packs and muscular thighs displayed so perfectly in those loincloths or sweaty, built men grunting and fighting…okay, I do. I’m not ashamed of it πŸ˜‰

  2. So what’s going on with both blogs? That would confuse the pants off me!!
    Being a writer is for the thick skin. Dealing with rejections? I don’t think anyone likes rejections, but it makes us stronger and stronger for the next one. It ‘s a step closer to “the call” and rejections make ‘the call’ alot sweeter when it happens. I handle rejections by allowing myself to wallow for a day and jump back on the horse the next. Perseverance!!!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s